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dugindeepThat terrible moment when you wake up, having vague memories of mentally writing something really fun ... but not remembering half the words.
Oh brain, how you fail me.
I have a question/need for advice in two instances. Both seem like they could blow up in my face, when I'm just trying to be honest.
1. My new coworker sits across the aisle, two cubes down from me. He speaks rather loudly on the phone and I can hear every phone conversation. It's obvious that he attempts to lower his voice on personal calls, but I can still hear every word that he says ... on one hand, I'm annoyed that I'm distracted by it; on the other hand, I feel bad for him to have everyone in our area inadvertently listening in on all his phone calls. I'm not sure how to warn him of this. He's only been here about five weeks and while we're kinda buddyish already, I don't want to come across as bitchy when I tell him. I was thinking to IM him the next time he's on a personal call and tell him, regretfully, that we can hear him. Yay/Nay?
2. I've been going to my BFF's house to watch The Walking Dead nearly every episode of Season 3 and now into 4. Every time, I bring snacks and drinks (beer or wine, depending on the mood), which is not that cheap, especially not for three (+ her husband) or more (+ her kids). Once in a while, she's offered to have something to add to what I'm bringing, but then winds up not having it ... either because she ran out of time (busy family schedules) or forgot. It's not that I'm going poor doing this, but I wind up spending anywhere from $20-40/week to bring stuff over, meanwhile they all get to eat and drink for free. Twice last season, I tried to shirk away saying I wasn't hungry and just ate at home before I went there. Another time, I played it up like I was on the go and didn't have time to fetch anything, but then on my way, she asked me to stop for ice ... which kind of blew the whole excuse up. How do I broach the subject that I think we should be sharing the burden in this? I understand there's the expectations that I'm a guest, so I should bring something with me ...
However: A) When I host, I try to provide nearly everything for people, or I set up the expectations beforehand on what I'll provide and what others need to bring; B) I always go to her house because she has kids and won't lug them over to my house since they have to go to bed in the middle of the episode; C) No matter who the host is, I don't think I should be paying for everything all the time! Hell, another friend came over for the SPN season premiere but came straight from work, hadn't had dinner, no time to stop for food/drink. I ordered pizza and shared the last of my beer. When she left, she insisted she split the costs, and I shrugged it off saying 'you can get me next time.' So I'm not keeping a tally of these things, but a little give and take is nice, right?
Oh brain, how you fail me.
I have a question/need for advice in two instances. Both seem like they could blow up in my face, when I'm just trying to be honest.
1. My new coworker sits across the aisle, two cubes down from me. He speaks rather loudly on the phone and I can hear every phone conversation. It's obvious that he attempts to lower his voice on personal calls, but I can still hear every word that he says ... on one hand, I'm annoyed that I'm distracted by it; on the other hand, I feel bad for him to have everyone in our area inadvertently listening in on all his phone calls. I'm not sure how to warn him of this. He's only been here about five weeks and while we're kinda buddyish already, I don't want to come across as bitchy when I tell him. I was thinking to IM him the next time he's on a personal call and tell him, regretfully, that we can hear him. Yay/Nay?
2. I've been going to my BFF's house to watch The Walking Dead nearly every episode of Season 3 and now into 4. Every time, I bring snacks and drinks (beer or wine, depending on the mood), which is not that cheap, especially not for three (+ her husband) or more (+ her kids). Once in a while, she's offered to have something to add to what I'm bringing, but then winds up not having it ... either because she ran out of time (busy family schedules) or forgot. It's not that I'm going poor doing this, but I wind up spending anywhere from $20-40/week to bring stuff over, meanwhile they all get to eat and drink for free. Twice last season, I tried to shirk away saying I wasn't hungry and just ate at home before I went there. Another time, I played it up like I was on the go and didn't have time to fetch anything, but then on my way, she asked me to stop for ice ... which kind of blew the whole excuse up. How do I broach the subject that I think we should be sharing the burden in this? I understand there's the expectations that I'm a guest, so I should bring something with me ...
However: A) When I host, I try to provide nearly everything for people, or I set up the expectations beforehand on what I'll provide and what others need to bring; B) I always go to her house because she has kids and won't lug them over to my house since they have to go to bed in the middle of the episode; C) No matter who the host is, I don't think I should be paying for everything all the time! Hell, another friend came over for the SPN season premiere but came straight from work, hadn't had dinner, no time to stop for food/drink. I ordered pizza and shared the last of my beer. When she left, she insisted she split the costs, and I shrugged it off saying 'you can get me next time.' So I'm not keeping a tally of these things, but a little give and take is nice, right?
